We’ve all been there.  You’re out at a bar, restaurant or maybe just grabbing a morning coffee.  

Your eyes meet and it’s like BAM!  Love at first sight.  Or is it? 

You exchange numbers, organise a date and before you know it, that initial spark is now a full-blown bonfire.  You get carried away by the heady rush of those first few weeks, months or even years, but then… 

The little things that you used to think were ‘cute’ are quickly escalating into being just damn annoying.  

You don’t understand where things went wrong.  Why doesn’t my partner get me anymore?  It’s like we’ve started speaking a different language.  Before you know it, you’re arguing over the pettiest of things, passing one another like ships in the night.  Until crunch time comes and it’s either shape up or ship out.  These days, with the ease at which we can just jump on a dating app and swipe right or swipe left, many seem to be opting to jump ship and begin another new cycle of trying to find ‘The One’. 

If this sounds like you, then listen up.  

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Stop seeking outside yourself for the answers. 

So what went wrong?   

Why You Keep Attracting the Wrong Partner 

First of all, let’s talk about why you may be in this repeating cycle of always attracting the wrong partner.  

It’s important to understand that if you have a string of failed relationships behind you or you’ve stuck it out unhappily in the same relationship, often wondering why, then it’s obvious that you’ve not uncovered the lessons that are being put in front of you.   

Too often we seek out a partner to fill a void or to make us happy.  But is this really fair?  Placing the expectation on someone else to make us happy or worse, over giving in the hopes that our partner will love us can leave you and them feeling exhausted.   

For tips on how to avoid emotional burnout see our blog Setting Healthy Boundaries for Better Relationships. 

In my experience, personally and professionally as an Intuitive Happiness Coach, I am going to say “Absolutely not”.  

While you continue to refuse to give love and acceptance to yourself first, you’ll never find someone who will compliment your life in the way you desperately seek.  

The Importance of Language in Relationships 

Language and our ability to communicate with others plays a large part in our ability to form strong relationships. When you speak the same language as your partner, you can connect on a deeper level and truly understand each other’s thoughts and feelings. 

So, how do you attract a partner who speaks your language?  

The key is to focus on yourself first. This means taking the time to work on yourself, improve your communication skills, and become the best version of yourself.   

How can we expect to attract a partner who speaks our language if we don’t even know our own communication style? 

Remember, only 7% of all communication is verbal, so it’s important to be mindful of your tone, body language and the words you use when communicating with others.   

How to Attract a Partner Who Speaks Your Language 

One of the most important things you can do to attract a partner who speaks your language is to be confident and comfortable in your own skin. This means accepting yourself for who you are, flaws and all. When you’re comfortable with yourself, you radiate a positive energy that is attractive to others. 

When you achieve this vibrational level, you will become a manifesting magnet for all the good things that you want to attract into your life, including love. 

It’s also important to be open-minded and flexible.  

Humans process over 11 million bits of information per second and we each have a unique way of processing to sort and sift that information. It is highly unlikely that you will ever come across someone who speaks your exact language, but having an awareness and understanding of yours and then applying that knowledge to understanding theirs will go a long way to a happy and harmonious relationship.  

So be willing to step outside your comfort zone when it comes to dating and relationships. You never know where or when you might meet someone who is the perfect match for you. 

Conclusion:  Finding the Right Partner 

In conclusion, attracting a partner who speaks your language is all about focusing on yourself, being clear about what you’re looking for, being open-minded and flexible, and using language to your advantage. By doing these things, you can increase your chances of finding a partner who shares your language and your values. 

Ready to attract a partner who speaks your language?   

Download our free eBook, 5 Steps to True Happiness, and start your journey today! 

For tips on how to avoid emotional burnout see our blog Setting Healthy Boundaries for Better Relationships. 

That’s it for now, I’m Leisa Q, your trusted Intuitive Happiness Coach and have a fabulous day.